Showing posts with label the yellow doorway. Show all posts
Showing posts with label the yellow doorway. Show all posts

Friday, 13 May 2016

DREAM ON AND LET THE PATH UNFOLD.



So you have a goal, i mean, everyone has goals , depending on the situation in your life and you circumstances, your goal could be related to one or two of many things or areas. Maybe your goal is to have more money , find more success , find a perfect relationship, revive a relationship, to get laid (m not judging, its a perfectly fine goal as far as goals go), Lose weight, world peace, become the president of USA, the point is that if you are alive and breathing right now, you want something.

When we first set a goal, our stupid brain( yes it’s stupid) who believes that it knows everything assures us that we have all the know how to get things done, obviously the reality sets in after a couple of days and the brain cleans after itself saying , “Life’s a Bitch”. Then it points us towards someone who already has achieved what we are trying to do. (And if you are trying to do something that only a few have managed to do ‘like repair a relationship’ you are screwed, with no one set example the brain will try its hardest to convince you to give up)

So now that you have a role model, you look up how they achieved what they achieved , their life story ,their challenges, You motivate yourself, becoz you relate to them , you are this person has the same dream, ‘WOW’ they did it, so can you. And that is the biggest load of crap.

You wanna know why , here is why, pick up steve jobs and bill gates biography, yes they were friends and yes they both became big in the tech industry (hence a common goal) , but other than that you will find no similarity in the way they achieved that goal. Yes they started at the same place but both their journeys were significantly different to each other, bringing me to the point i am trying to build up to for the past 60 minutes while stuffing my face with a side of chilly chicken (which is besides the point)..
THERE IS MORE THAN ONE WAY TO GET STUFF DONE.

There are infinite ways to get what you want. 
And by more than one way i mean, there are millions of ways to achieve that one thing that you want to achieve. Let me explain, there are 8 billion people on the planet, all of them have a mind of their own , So many people , so many choices , all of them intertwining with each other to create infinite possibilities . It’s infinite demand and supply.

So what now, you would say, "Let’s say for a moment we agree with you , that we don’t need to follow our role models, rather we can find our own new and unique way to get stuff done, but the problem is , we don’t know that way, in case of a role model or the conventional way we know what they did, we have a road map, its easy to look at in theory hence tempting to follow, but making our own path, we wouldn’t even know where to begin?”
Seriously, where?
The answer to that small measly problem. You don’t know where to begin, but you do know where to end. I mean, you still have your goal in your mind. The ending. Close your eyes, can you see it?, you with the end goal in hand, imagine that scene, imagine the reactions of your loved ones, imagine the success , how did it feel , did it feel awesome ? if it did , congratulations you have just started on the road to success.

That is the beauty of this life, we are not supposed to work out the details of how we will get there , all we have to do is dream and feel the place of success, and the more frequently we do that , the faster we will be shown the path, ie; what to do next to get a step closer. Muggles call it opportunity (treat it like a unicorn sighting) , i call it creating a path.

We have been taught to believe that we have to find a way to get things done, but in reality the way was always supposed to be shown to us. That is how life works, try anything else and you will struggle and fail. It’s only when you surrender the doubts and the hows and just dream the dream and feel the feelings things will start to work in your favor.
So dream on, coz in between all the running , planning , hard work, the one thing that you hardly do is dream the dream of achievement, feel the feelings, coz you are too busy following in the footsteps or wallowing in the ‘how’s’ and the doubt’s.

Thursday, 17 December 2015

Do we Create in our Dreams?


So you woke up from a nightmare, or maybe, it was a good dream. Maybe you dreamed of being naked, or flying, or Falling. or you were being chased, or loosing your teeth, maybe you were drowning, missing a flight or a train, unprepared for a maths test, dating and feeling amazing with a person who's face you can't remember now, having sex, playing a part in your favorite movie / tv series/ book. 

Whatever it may be, dreams are a part of everyone's daily life, and i can bet that anyone reading this would have had at least 5 of these at some point or other in their lives. Some of us look for meaning, some of us try to relate these to current ongoings, some of us forget about them. 

Today i am going to tell you 

1. What dreams are, 

and being conscious creators practicing LOA 

2. Do we create while we sleep ? 

The answer to the second one is NO. We Don't . We don't create while we sleep, so if you had a nightmare today threatening your reality or the people in it... please calm down. Everything is fine. 

So then what are Dreams ? 

The Basic Definition of a dream is.. 

"Dreams are successions of images, ideas, emotions, and sensations that occur usually involuntarily in the mind during certain stages of sleep."

A dream is usually a representation of your beliefs and thoughts and emotions held by your subconscious mind in the form of images.  

Our Conscious mind (One we use while we are awake) can on an average get about 60 thousand thoughts in a day, So you see how things that are really important for your emotional and life growth can get lost in that sea of thoughts. The subconscious mind comes to play at night when you are sleeping, so its safe to say that Dreams are a representation of your subconscious mind. 
From the point of view of a conscious creator, a dream can get you a better understanding of your vibration / focus regarding something that you are trying to manifest. 

 That way a dream doesn't really contribute in creation but is more of a indicator or your progress or your status regarding the thing you are trying to manifest/ Or your emotional state regarding different areas of your life. 

 Depending upon what kind of a person you are your dreams can fall in one of the two categories. 

 1.) Straight forward dreams:


Straight - forward dreams are, as name suggests pretty much straight forward, you see someone you know, talk to them, notice them while they are talking to someone else, its simple, the dream is clear and people in the dreams kinda communicate whatever is in their mind. These kind of dreams are also rare. But are pretty simple to interpret. But as with all dreams, they don't predict the future, neither are they revealing anyone's hidden intentions towards you, they are just a representation of your feelings regarding that subject. So, a spouse cheats on you isn't a sign that he/she is going to cheat on you, it may very well represent the insecurity that you may be harboring within yourself for any of the number of reasons, like , abandonment issues, trust issues, self esteem or self worth issues. Long story short, your current emotional state is pointing towards self sabotage or getting hurt, Please take care and change it, start looking for things that make this relationship special, strong, and pay attention to the love that your spouse makes you feel. Don't fret just Start feeling good about it. 
2.) Interpretive dreams. 


The most common dreams, flying, nudity, missing a train, drowning, being chased, all of these fall under interpretive dreams, here the message isn't so straight forward, but is conveyed by using an imagery that uses a lot of symbolism. For example, I am an expert swimmer, but i used to have dreams where i would be on the beach and the water level would be rising, while i be trying find safe ground, and this would make me panic. Now if you look up common dream symbolism, water represents your emotions, a dream about drowning would mean that certain situations in your life are causing you to feel overwhelmed. In my case , i was just running from my feelings. Similarly Dreams of being chased, or dreams of loosing teeth, all of them have their own symbolism, and meaning.

Another common dream that i used to have was driving/walking down a road, sometimes this road would be familiar like a  normal one, other times this road would just take off and go up ,and i would drive up into the sky , and would see the world down from the edges , while taking care not to fall off, one time i was riding a bike with a client of mine, we were taking a road that lead through a forest and further into a tunnel, sometimes these road just end, sometimes they lead me to a place that is out of this world but dangerous. The road kinda represents a Life path, and i could interpret these dreams to know where my current emotional state would be leading me. 

Here are a few dream dictionaries where you could look upon your reoccurring dreams.  Remember , your dreams are a gateway to your subconscious, which is the home to your beliefs, understanding where you are headed with your current beliefs and emotions can help you a long way to help you mold your better future.  





Let us know about the recurring dreams that you are having, down in the comment section. 

Take care and Sweet Dreams. :P

Monday, 27 April 2015

Relationship Insights ! (Personality test)



I took this test in the fall of 2013 . It gave me a lot of insight when i was suffering in a relationship. I ll describe my 'take' on this once you are done with the test. 



To look within.


NO CHEATING! That will take all the fun out of it.
This is a very interesting test. Try it.

Have a pen and paper handy before you read any further. As soon as you read a question, write the answer right away.

Make sure to answer questions 1-8 before moving on…NO CHEATING!!

Read the following questions, imagining the scenes in your mind, and write down the FIRST thing that you visualize. Do not think about the questions excessively.

1. You are not alone. You are walking in the woods. Who are you walking with?
2. You are walking in the woods. You see an animal. What kind of animal is it?
3. What interaction takes place between you and the animal?
4. You walk deeper in the woods. You enter a clearing and before you is your dream house. Describe its size?
5. Is your dream house surrounded by a fence?
6. You enter the house. You walk to the dining area and see the dining room table. Describe what you see on AND around the table.
7. You exit the house through the back door. Lying in the grass is a cup. What material is the cup made of?
8. What do you do with the cup?
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This has been a relational psychology test. The answers given to the questions have been shown to have a relevance to values and ideals that we hold in our personal lives. Its more of a reflection on how you are currently perceiving your relationship with someone. The analysis follows:

1. The person who you are walking with is the most important person in your life.
2. The size of the animal is representative of your perception of the size of your problems.
3. The severity of the interaction you have with the animal is representative of how you deal with your problems. (passive/aggressive)
4. The size of your dream house is representative of the size of your ambition to resolve your problems.
5. No fence is indicative of an open personality. People are welcome at all times. The presence of a fence indicates a closed personality. You’d prefer people not to drop by unannounced.
6. If your answer did not include food, people, or flowers, then you are generally unhappy.
7. The durability of the material with which the cup is made of is representative of the perceived durability of your relationship with the person named in number 1. For example, Styrofoam, and paper are all disposable, Styrofoam, paper and glass are not durable, and metal and plastic are durable.
8. Your disposition of the cup is representative of your attitude towards the person in number 1.


My own test results: 

I was in relationship dump when i first took this one... gave me a lot of insight and clarity .

Here is what happened. 

Question 1: You are not alone. You are walking in the woods. Who are you walking with?
Answer 1. I saw myself walking with this girl that i had been in love with for a long time, but things weren't working out. Lets call her 'Robin' to protect the identity of the innocent . 

Analysis : Yes she was kinda always on my mind, so its safe to say that she was and still is important. 

Question 2: You are walking in the woods. You see an animal. What kind of animal is it?
Answer 2: The animal that i saw was a Deer, a Stag to be more precise, had antlers and all, strong and robust. 

Come at me bro ! :p

Analysis :  Now deer is a medium sized animal , and is a quite docile one generally, until you go a lock horns with it. Same for my problems in my relationship, they were there , they weren't monumental , but yes they gave me a lot of pain , if i tried to solve them , or approach them aggressively with an intent to solve them. The test says that animal is representative of the perception of the size of my problem. 'Perception' being the key word here. Perception is my own view of the world, and often it doesn't really have any roots in Actual reality. In a objective world view, nothing no where is Right or Wrong, and so my problems are not really problems, they are more like situations, that are just present, And have the choice to give these situations the power to make me feel good or bad by assigning them the tag of good or bad. So my perception will constantly change with how hopeful i am or how fearful i am regarding a particular situation. So the more hopeful i am, the smaller the animal will be, and smaller my problem will actually be.  That is a relief. 


Question 3: What interaction takes place between you and the animal?
Answer 3: The stag looks at me , i don't react , it runs away. 
Analysis : In the past i have been the, Fight it out , deal with it kinda person, but recently i have been more of a 'at peace' , 'i just wanna be happy kinda person' so, i didn't aggravate my problems, and so they left me alone. at-least i had that working out for me. 


 Question 4: You walk deeper in the woods. You enter a clearing and before you is your dream  house. Describe its size?
 Answer no 4: I saw a big Wooden house, luxurious, Spacious, and comfortable.  

Close enough...

Analysis: As i told you before , lately i had been more occupied with the resolve to be happy, so yes this house in all its glory represented a peaceful , tranquil , and comfortable approach in my ways of solving my problems. 


Question 5: Is your dream house surrounded by a fence?
Answer 5: There was no Fence. 
Analysis: Yes i am a more open minded person, it wasn't true before , but lately i have been more accepting and peaceful, and open to new information, and expansion.


Question 6: You enter the house. You walk to the dining area and see the dining room table. Describe what you see on AND around the table?
Answer 6: So i saw a huge dining hall , i was alone, big table, hunting trophies on the wall, quite. no there were no flowers , people , children . 
Analysis : Well i had been a fearful person till now, and yes, fearful ones are never generally happy.. and my quest for peace and my own happiness came from this unhappiness only. so quite true. 


Question 7: You exit the house through the back door. Lying in the grass is a cup. What material is the cup made of?
Answer 7: So i went through the back door , a white porcelain cup lay in the grass. 

Doesn't wear over time, but requires good handling.

Analysis : Now i have always perceived Porcelain cups to be beautiful, smooth, easy to hold, feel good in your fingers And everlasting if you handle it with care. And that is how i looked at my relationship with Robin, it was good , smooth, beautiful ,and gave me and her joy , and yes it had the potential to last for ever . But at the same time porcelain cups are kind of fragile, if they fall an a soft surface they may survive, but they generally break if you drop em on solid ground, not unlike a metal or a plastic cup. And so , yes i had this fear of loosing this relationship,  a fear so strong that i felt like it was the end whenever there was even a slight bump. Why i felt like this was probably, because i have never had such an amazing relationship before. And so the idea of  loosing this one seemed terrible. So yes i kinda handled my relationship like a porcelain cup. 
It was after this, that i realized , that a relationship is how i make it to be, did i stop loving her after each and every bump ? No ! i didn't, so then why was i afraid that she would stop loving me? What i give in a relationship i deserved back, and  till now if i look at it, she has always been receptive, and i have always gotten what invested, so then my fear for her leaving me at a slightest bump, is irrational , it actually just stems from my immense love for her. and this immense love stage has been achieved by me because of all the love that i have received from her.. so she ain't gonna leave me.. so this can be a metal cup. That's a Relief.  

Question 8: What do you do with the cup?
Answer 8: I pick the cup up , and keep it in a safe place. 
Analysis: That is how i have been , protective and caring , of her and of the relationship. its good, but when i start doing so because i think that my relationship is a fragile thing, its turns bad. coz now  in my mind my relationship , though good, is also not strong. This is a wrong way to think about it.. i have guarded it for a long time, but i don't have to guard it  anymore, it can become a metal cup, and so i can carry it anywhere, my relationship can be something not good and fragile but something good and strong like a metal cup... it doesn't belong at home, in safety , if belongs out there with me traveling the world, going through life's up's and down's and still stong and good. 
The results of this test gave me a great insight on my own perception of my relationship and how i needed to change my perception for the universe to allow and provide me with the desired results. 

Do share your results in the comments of on the facebook page. 
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Sunday, 1 March 2015

DOING THE IMPOSSIBLE !!!

The Impossible tasks ! 


 What is Impossible? , You can tell me that the meaning lies in the word itself, some of the more positive people tell me that it is just a way to say, I AM POSSIBLE. I don’t really understand what that means…I mean yes I exist, ergo I am not just a possibility, but I am a truth, which you and everyone else on this planet will have to live with hopefully for the next 40 more years.

 But then what is Impossible, and by extension, what is an impossible task? A impossible situation. I ll go ahead and explore what it means for an average person. It’s a place of No hope, or to put it in a more “non-depressing” way, it’s a task you have no idea how to accomplish, and even if you have an idea on how to do it, you are right now not in a state to implement that idea. To put it more simply, you don’t know how to get ‘there’ from ‘here’. You don’t know the path, or the path you know, you are in no position to walk on right now.
I ll take 2 examples, of impossible tasks, see if any one of it is applicable to you. 

 1. Buying a House.

 2. Getting back an Ex/Making a crush fall for you/ changing someone’s attitude. 
So you want to buy a house. So your mind says, its fairly simply, Make the money and then 
buy the house. Then you ask your mind, how do I make so much money. And the answer is usually, ‘Someday’. Till then I think you should rent. 

 When it comes to changing someone’s mind about you, your mind is like, ‘lets keep trying’ , maybe we can wear them down by our nagging or persistence. And when the other person goes and blocks your number and phone, your mind is like “we tried our best, maybe it was not worth it, just sit and mope, complain occasionally, ‘Someday’ it will all change, wait till then, at least they will call you brave to put up with all this.”

 So what happened in both the cases? In both cases your mind didn’t know how to get ‘there’, it tried all that it could, and when it didn’t work, your mind declared that there is no other way, and to conserve energy it made this problem a problem for your ‘future self’.

 So then are we doomed to not buy that house, when we need it, or not be in a relationship of our choice. Not have the love and appreciation that we deserve?
No, we are forgetting something very important. Focus, and Desire. We usually don’t pay attention to the ‘thinking’ part, when all our problems lie in this physical world.

 What if I tell you today, that the world doesn’t work the way you come to believe. We live in a world where we expect results to every action. And so happiness and relief is a ‘result’ for us, Result of an action that you take in the physical reality. How many times you would have caught yourself saying. 

 “if only I could have that one thing, I would be that happiest person on the planet.”
This approach, this perspective about life leads us to the whole concept of Impossible.
Happiness and Bliss and relief are not ‘Results’, these are ‘Actions’ and such strong actions that they can actually open up, and show you a way towards an impossible situation.

 The human brain is a stupid thing, it always assumes that it knows all there is to know about a situation, and so when find yourself in a place where you have to make a decision, your brain just assumes that it knows all possible ways, and that there is no other
way. But you and i both know from experience that, if we cant see a way, that doesn't mean that it doesn't exists.

 So even if you don’t know the 'how' of having that new house right now, don’t worry, don’t even put off your dream, because the ‘way’ in which you can have that house, that relationship, that dream come true, Right now,Exists ! You just don’t see it yet, and to see it, to see this path, this new way, light up in front of you, you have to just move a little towards your impossible goal, and how do you do that? You focus on having it right now, and you feel how it would feel to be in that perfect world where you have what you want. You discuss why you want it? How is it going to make you feel, you get excited about it. That is how you move towards it. And the best part, you don’t even have to do it all day. Writing or visualizing about your perfect resolution, 5 minutes every day before bed, and then not worrying about it all day is all it takes for you to see the new path light in front of you.
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